To be honest I think people get carried away with this whole “LEONARDO DI CAPRIO MUST HAVE AN OSCAR.” Don’t get me wrong, he’s a talented actor and it isn’t that I think he doesn’t deserve one for some of his films, but I don’t think it is worth obsessing over. The Academy Awards are shit to begin with, which is why I don’t watch them. 99% of the time, the artists that I think deserve the award don’t get it. I also acknowledge that I have a different taste than the general population in most things, so even though I don’t care for Lorde’s music, there is an extremely large group of people who listened to her music.
In terms of Oscars and Leo, to be frank, I don’t believe every single role he’s ever been in was deserving of an oscar. What’s Eating Gilbert Grape and Django were amazing movies and his roles in particular were well done. On the flip side, I can’t stand Titanic, I thought Inception was only decent, and I heard the new Gatsby left a lot to be desired.
Above all, however, is the fact that the old joke of Leo never getting the Oscar is a very tired one. He himself has stated that he doesn’t act to be awarded a little golden statue, he does it because he loves it. Johnny Depp, Edward Norton, Harrison Ford, John Travolta, Gary Oldman, Robert Downey Jr., Liam Neeson, Mark Wahlberg, these are all very talented actors without Oscars. It doesn’t make them any less amazing or tarnish their reputations as actors. People are unpredictable, fickle, and sometimes they don’t have good taste. Sometimes the shittiest RomCom of the year gets an academy award, and the groundbreaking, inventive story gets shafted. In fact most times, that’s the case.
So what are we to do? Stop caring so much. Academy Awards mean very little, or at least they should because there are hundreds of musicians, movies, actors, artists, and authors who will never make that acceptance speech who deserve our respect. And Leo is gonna be just fine. I promise.
Doctors told me a long time ago that I shouldn’t worry about my migraines. “They usually go away with age.” I am older and I get more migraines now than ever before. I’m tired of having so many pages torn from my life. I’m tired of being incapacitated for a week just for getting my period and barely being able to open my eyes. I’m tired of having to tell Mike that I can’t watch a movie with him or do anything with him this evening because of a goddamn migraine. It isn’t fair. It isn’t getting better. The medication isn’t working anymore. I just want to live normally, without this handicap that nobody understands. And no. It isn’t “just a headache” and no I can’t just ignore it or get over it. If I could, believe me, I would have done it by now.
How is it life can toss you something so beautiful only to come back along and rip it away. And it waits until this rare perfect thing has woven its fibers in your skin, until you are too in love with it, too dependent. It wait for the moment that will hurt the most.
I’m having a hard time with how my feminism interacts with the trans community. I run things like the Vagina Monologues and I’m all gung-ho about sexual education, but those things imply that women must have vaginas. Or is that what I’m implying?
1) Upwards of 90% of those who identify as female…
I reconnected recently with one if my exes, who is a trans woman. We talk quite a bit these days and she talks to me a lot about the challenges she faces. To an extent I can give her advice and empathize because she is exclusively attracted to women and I’m bi so I know how a lot of that is. (Having feelings for a straight woman for example.) When she talks about issues that are focused on her experiences as a mtf trans woman, however, I can’t even imagine what that’s like. But to be honest, I don’t think that really matters. She knows that I will never have those same experiences but she chooses to talk to me anyway. Because she knows I’m an ally and I support her 110%. Sometimes all you need is someone to listen without judgment who can sit there and say “holy fuck that is some bullshit.” I don’t know if that’s at all helpful but I guess all I’m trying to say is you shouldn’t worry so much about walking on eggshells and being inclusive of every walk of life there is. Just be supportive and be an ally and I know that will mean a whole hellofa lot. :)
It’s been a lovely Christmas. There were so many moments I laughed and smiled and it was great to see family again. But something happened as the evening progressed and a cold feeling began to fester. It was probably due to the fact that tonight was the first night I’d been to Paula’s house since she died. She decorated and created that warm atmosphere and there wasn’t a thing in that house that didn’t have her touch. Everywhere you look there are traces of her, in photographs and holiday decor and the food that she always used to make. After a while I found myself expecting to see her come around the corner. I was waiting to hear her voice and it just never happened.
Treat each day as a gift and never miss an opportunity to say that you love someone. I was so blessed to have her in my life and I’ll never forget the incredible impact she had on my life.